People are not just faces – they are mirrors. In their words, in their eyes, in the movements that hurt us, move us, inspire us or shake us the inside. Mirror theory theory is based on the idea that people and situations that cause us strong emotions act as mirrors of our inner world.
‘Mirror, my mirror’
What bothers us to others may be something that exists in us, but we have not accepted or fully recognized. What we admire to others is often something we want to get or something we already have but we do not give it enough value.
Our reactions to the behaviors of others are indications of what needs treatment, acceptance or development. For example, if someone annoys you because it is arrogant, there may be a piece within you that is afraid to express power or confidence. You may have been arrogant in the past and have not forgiven yourself.
This does not mean that you have to blame yourself for what you feel, but use interpersonal interactions as tools of self -knowledge. Instead of saying “the other is to blame”, you can ask “why does this man affect me so much?”
This way of thinking can help you better understand yourself, heal wounds and cultivate more empathy.
View, a defense mechanism
The term was born by Freud, who borrowed him from neurology and is referred to as the ability of neurons to transmit stimuli from one level of the nervous system to another.
View is a defense mechanism that describes how our minds shifts emotions, desires or characteristics that we cannot afford to recognize ourselves … to others.
In other words, I don’t see anything inside me because I can’t stand it or admit it, so I see it outside me.
The projection is not ‘bad’. It is human.
You can easily see when someone makes a view. However, it is difficult to realize that you do it yourself as it becomes unconscious.
How will you understand it?
- You feel wounded, you hold a defensive attitude or you are sensitive to something someone said or did.
- You are ready to throw blame
- You find it difficult to be objective and get into each other’s shoes.
- You find that it is now a pattern of behavior.
If you feel that you are having trouble with strong emotions or interpersonal issues that affect your daily life, do not hesitate to address a psychologist or psychotherapist. Care of ourselves is a sign of power, not weakness.
* Source: Vita
